How should a lawyer handle a client who gives unreasonable instructions?

When a client presents unreasonable instructions, the most professional course of action is to confirm those instructions in writing and also to suggest more reasonable alternatives. This approach serves several important purposes:

Firstly, documenting the client's instructions creates a clear record of their requests, which can protect both the lawyer and the client should any disputes arise later about what was communicated. It ensures that everyone involved has a mutual understanding of the client's desires.

Secondly, suggesting more reasonable options provides the client with perspective on the implications of their requests. It allows the lawyer to guide the client toward realistic and achievable goals while still respecting their autonomy. This guidance can facilitate more productive dialogue and may lead to resolutions that are satisfactory for both the lawyer and the client.

This strategy also fosters the lawyer-client relationship, demonstrating a commitment to the client’s best interests while maintaining professional integrity and ethical standards. By addressing unreasonable instructions in this manner, the lawyer helps steer the case in a constructive direction without disregarding the client’s wishes outright. In family law, where emotions often run high, this considerate approach can be particularly effective in managing expectations and outcomes.